In Memory of Wilma Whitley:
As I recall my ministry as a pastor, I am so thankful that God has blessed me and our church that we may do ministry together joyfully and effectively. I am thankful for my vocation: I am doing what I want to do. I feel happy as I do ministry! I am thankful for the support of the congregation that has helped me to do ministry with great joy.
On the other hand, as life has ups and downs, I have experienced some difficult moments. One of them is to officiate at a funeral service, especially for an active member or a good friend. I would rather be in the pew than at the pulpit. However, when I lead the service, I think this is the last gift for her/him. So, I am willing to officiate in a funeral service.
I am writing in memory of Wilma Whitley, who was embraced by God in heaven on December 26, 2021. She was such a church person, actively participating in our church activities. She attended the Sunday service faithfully, made a donation for our Vacation Bible School, and liked to be at the Monday Adult School. In addition, she taught a workshop for Sunday school teachers about 6 years ago. She was determined to use her talents for the glory of God even though she was challenged physically.
She was always glad to see me, smiling at me. She liked to know about other cultures and respected cultural differences. Whenever I visited with her, we had a meaningful conversation. I still remember when we talked about our own death. What would it be like? What would happen when we die? She and I agreed that death could be scary, but once we experience it with the Lord, it would not be so bad at all. Rather, it would be even fun. I am so thankful that before she passed away, Wilma said, “I am not afraid of death anymore.” I believe she was ready to go to heaven.
She had a good sense of humor. One day, when I left, she said, “Sungmu, next time you come to see me, please be late at least by 10 minutes.” I asked, “What do you mean?” She said, “You are always on time. If you are late next time, that will make me feel better.” So, I tried to be late when I visited her. She wanted me to take it easy in doing ministry. Her words of advice have been helpful for me not to put myself in a stressful situation.
There are so many things in the world that we humans cannot understand. But there is one thing I can tell you for sure: Wilma is in a better place now. And you and I will see her again in heaven sooner or later. She just went ahead of us.
Let us have faith, the faith of resurrection, the faith Wilma had. Let us be faithful to God, ourselves, God’s church, and God’s people in the world until we meet Wilma again in heaven. Amen.
Sungmu Lee